這是前些日子爆出已經被加拿大法院接理對藏傳佛教噶舉派法王的訟訴。(加拿大法院鏈接在此:https://www.bccourts.ca/jdb-txt/sc/21/09/2021BCSC0939cor1.htm?fbclid=IwAR2FLZlzmUIGTBaTuKPVchEqqngcE3Qy6G_C0TWNWVKa2ksbIYkVJVMQ8f8)
這位法王的桃色事件,我是幾年前才聽到。但,藏傳佛教的高層有這些性醜聞,我已經聽了幾十年。我以前的一位前女友也被一些堪布藉故上她的家摟抱過,也有一些活佛跟她表白。(這不只是她,其他地方我也聽過不少)
這是一個藏傳佛教裡面系統式的問題。
很多時候發生這種事情,信徒和教主往往都是說女方得不到寵而報仇,或者說她們也精神病,或者說她們撒謊。
我不排除有這種可能性,但,多過一位,甚至多位出來指證的時候,我是傾向於相信『沒有那麼巧這麼多有精神病的女人要撒謊來報仇』。
大寶法王的桃色事件,最先吹哨的是一位台灣的在家信徒,第二位是香港的女出家人,現在加拿大又多一位公開舉報上法庭。
對大寶法王信徒來說,這一次的比較麻煩,因為是有孩子的。(關於有孩子的,我早在法王的桃色事件曝光時,就有聽聞)
如果法庭勒令要驗證DNA,這對法王和他的信徒來說,會很尷尬和矛盾,因為做或不做,都死。
你若問我,我覺得『人數是有力量的』,同時我也覺得之後有更多的人站出來,是不出奇的。
我也藉此呼籲各方佛教徒,如果你們真的愛佛教,先別說批判,但如鴕鳥般不討論這些爭議,你是間接害了佛教。
(下面是我從加拿大法院鏈接拷貝下來的內容,當中有很多細節。)
Table of Contents
INTRODUCTION
BACKGROUND
ANALYSIS
A. The Spousal Support Claim in this Case
B. The Test to Amend Pleadings
C. Pleadings in Family Law Cases
D. The Legal Concept of a Marriage-Like Relationship
E. Is There a Reasonable Claim of a Marriage-Like Relationship?
F. Delay / Prejudice
CONCLUSION
INTRODUCTION
[1] The claimant applies to amend her notice of family claim to seek spousal support. At issue is whether the claimant’s allegations give rise to a reasonable claim she lived with the respondent in a marriage-like relationship, so as to give rise to a potential entitlement to spousal support under the Family Law Act, S.B.C. 2011, c. 25 (“FLA”).
[2] The facts alleged by the claimant do not fit within a traditional concept of marriage. The claimant does not allege that she and the respondent ever lived together. Indeed, she has only met the respondent in person four times: twice very briefly in a public setting; a third time in private, when she alleges the respondent sexually assaulted her; and a fourth and final occasion, when she informed the respondent she was pregnant with his child.
[3] The claimant’s case is that what began as a non-consensual sexual encounter evolved into a loving and affectionate relationship. That relationship occurred almost entirely over private text messages. The parties rarely spoke on the telephone, and never saw one another during the relationship, even over video. The claimant says they could not be together because the respondent is forbidden by his station and religious beliefs from intimate relationships or marriage. Nonetheless, she alleges, they formed a marriage-like relationship that lasted from January 2018 to January 2019.
[4] The respondent denies any romantic relationship with the claimant. While he acknowledges providing emotional and financial support to the claimant, he says it was for the benefit of the child the claimant told him was his daughter.
[5] The claimant’s proposed amendment raises a novel question: can a secret relationship that began on-line and never moved into the physical world be like a marriage? In my view, that question should be answered by a trial judge after hearing all of the evidence. The alleged facts give rise to a reasonable claim the claimant lived with the respondent in a marriage-like relationship. Accordingly, I grant the claimant leave to amend her notice of family claim.
BACKGROUND
[6] It should be emphasized that this is an application to amend pleadings only. The allegations by the claimant are presumed to be true for the purposes of this application. Those allegations have not been tested in a court of law.
[7] The respondent, Ogyen Trinley Dorje, is a high lama of the Karma Kagyu School of Tibetan Buddhism. He has been recognized and enthroned as His Holiness, the 17th Gyalwang Karmapa. Without meaning any disrespect, I will refer to him as Mr. Dorje in these reasons for judgment.
[8] Mr. Dorje leads a monastic and nomadic lifestyle. His true home is Tibet, but he currently resides in India. He receives followers from around the world at the Gyuto Monetary in India. He also travels the world teaching Tibetan Buddhist Dharma and hosting pujas, ceremonies at which Buddhists express their gratitude and devotion to the Buddha.
[9] The claimant, Vikki Hui Xin Han, is a former nun of Tibetan Buddhism. Ms. Han first encountered Mr. Dorje briefly at a large puja in 2014. The experience of the puja convinced Ms. Han she wanted to become a Buddhist nun. She met briefly with Mr. Dorje, in accordance with Kagyu traditions, to obtain his approval to become a nun.
[10] In October 2016, Ms. Han began a three-year, three-month meditation retreat at a monastery in New York State. Her objective was to learn the practices and teachings of the Kagyu Lineage. Mr. Dorje was present at the retreat twice during the time Ms. Han was at the monastery.
[11] Ms. Han alleges that on October 14, 2017, Mr. Dorje sexually assaulted her in her room at the monastery. She alleges that she became pregnant from the assault.
[12] After she learned that she was pregnant, Ms. Han requested a private audience with Mr. Dorje. In November 2017, in the presence of his bodyguards, Ms. Han informed Mr. Dorje she was pregnant with his child. Mr. Dorje initially denied responsibility; however, he provided Ms. Han with his email address and a cellphone number, and, according to Ms. Han, said he would “prepare some money” for her.
[13] Ms. Han abandoned her plan to become a nun, left the retreat and returned to Canada. She never saw Mr. Dorje again.
[14] After Ms. Han returned to Canada, she and Mr. Dorje began a regular communication over an instant messaging app called Line. They also exchanged emails and occasionally spoke on the telephone.
[15] The parties appear to have expressed care and affection for one another in these communications. I say “appear to” because it is difficult to fully understand the meaning and intentions of another person from brief text messages, especially those originally written in a different language. The parties wrote in a private shorthand, sharing jokes, emojis, cartoon portraits and “hugs” or “kisses”. Ms. Han was the more expressive of the two, writing more frequently and in longer messages. Mr. Dorje generally participated in response to questions or prompting from Ms. Han, sometimes in single word messages.
[16] Ms. Han deposes that she believed Mr. Dorje was in love with her and that, by January 2018, she and Mr. Dorje were living in a “conjugal relationship”.
[17] During their communications, Ms. Han expressed concern that her child would be “illegitimate”. She appears to have asked Mr. Dorje to marry her, and he appears to have responded that he was “not ready”.
[18] Throughout 2018, Mr. Dorje transferred funds in various denominations to Ms. Han through various third parties. Ms. Han deposes that these funds were:
a) $50,000 CDN to deliver the child and for postpartum care she was to receive at a facility in Seattle;
b) $300,000 CDN for the first year of the child’s life;
c) $20,000 USD for a wedding ring, because Ms. Han wrote “Even if we cannot get married, you must buy me a wedding ring”;
d) $400,000 USD to purchase a home for the mother and child.
[19] On June 19, 2018, Ms. Han gave birth to a daughter in Richmond, B.C.
[20] On September 17, 2018, Mr. Dorje wrote, ”Taking care of her and you are my duty for life”.
[21] Ms. Han’s expectation was that the parties would live together in the future. She says they planned to live together. Those plans evolved over time. Initially they involved purchasing a property in Toronto, so that Mr. Dorje could visit when he was in New York. They also discussed purchasing property in Calgary or renting a home in Vancouver for that purpose. Ms. Han eventually purchased a condominium in Richmond using funds provided by Mr. Dorje.
[22] Ms. Han deposes that the parties made plans for Mr. Dorje to visit her and meet the child in Richmond. In October 2018, however, Mr. Dorje wrote that he needed to “disappear” to Europe. He wrote:
I will definitely find a way to meet her
And you
Remember to take care of yourself if something happens
[23] The final plan the parties discussed, according to Ms. Han, was that Mr. Dorje would sponsor Ms. Han and the child to immigrate to the United States and live at the Kagyu retreat centre in New York State.
[24] In January 2019, Ms. Han lost contact with Mr. Dorje.
[25] Ms. Han commenced this family law case on July 17, 2019, seeking child support, a declaration of parentage and a parentage test. She did not seek spousal support.
[26] Ms. Han first proposed a claim for spousal support in October 2020 after a change in her counsel. Following an exchange of correspondence concerning an application for leave to amend the notice of family claim, Ms. Han’s counsel wrote that Ms. Han would not be advancing a spousal support claim. On March 16, 2020, counsel reversed course, and advised that Ms. Han had instructed him to proceed with the application.
[27] When this application came on before me, the trial was set to commence on June 7, 2021. The parties were still in the process of discoveries and obtaining translations for hundreds of pages of documents in Chinese characters.
[28] At a trial management conference on May 6, 2021, noting the parties were not ready to proceed, Madam Justice Walkem adjourned the trial to April 11, 2022.
ANALYSIS
A. The Spousal Support Claim in this Case
[29] To claim spousal support in this case, Ms. Han must plead that she lived with Mr. Dorje in a marriage-like relationship. This is because only “spouses” are entitled to spousal support, and s. 3 of the Family Law Act defines a spouse as a person who is married or has lived with another person in a marriage-like relationship:
3 (1) A person is a spouse for the purposes of this Act if the person
(a) is married to another person, or
(b) has lived with another person in a marriage-like relationship, and
(i) has done so for a continuous period of at least 2 years, or
(ii) except in Parts 5 [Property Division] and 6 [Pension Division], has a child with the other person.
[30] Because she alleges she has a child with Mr. Dorje, Ms. Han need not allege that the relationship endured for a continuous period of two years to claim spousal support; but she must allege that she lived in a marriage-like relationship with him at some point in time. Accordingly, she must amend the notice of family claim.
B. The Test to Amend Pleadings
[31] Given that the notice of trial has been served, Ms. Han requires leave of the court to amend the notice of family claim: Supreme Court Family Rule 8-1(1)(b)(i).
[32] A person seeking to amend a notice of family claim must show that there is a reasonable cause of action. This is a low threshold. What the applicant needs to establish is that, if the facts pleaded are proven at trial, they would support a reasonable claim. The applicant’s allegations of fact are assumed to be true for the purposes of this analysis. Cantelon v. Wall, 2015 BCSC 813, at para. 7-8.
[33] The applicant’s delay, the reasons for the delay, and the prejudice to the responding party are also relevant factors. The ultimate consideration is whether it would be just and convenient to allow the amendment. Cantelon, at para. 6, citing Teal Cedar Products Ltd. v. Dale Intermediaries Ltd. et al (1986), 19 B.C.L.R. (3d) 282.
C. Pleadings in Family Law Cases
[34] Supreme Court Family Rules 3-1(1) and 4-1(1) require that a claim to spousal support be pleaded in a notice of family claim in Form F3. Section 2 of Form F3, “Spousal relationship history”, requires a spousal support claimant to check the boxes that apply to them, according to whether they are or have been married or are or have been in a marriage-like relationship. Where a claimant alleges a marriage-like relationship, Form F3 requires that they provide the date on which they began to live together with the respondent in a marriage-like relationship and, where applicable, the date on which they separated. Form F3 does not require a statement of the factual basis for the claim of spousal support.
[35] In this case, Ms. Han seeks to amend the notice of family claim to allege that she and Mr. Dorje began to live in a marriage-like relationship in or around January 2018, and separated in or around January 2019.
[36] An allegation that a person lived with a claimant in a marriage-like relationship is a conclusion of law, not an allegation of fact. Unlike the rules governing pleadings in civil actions, however, the Supreme Court Family Rules do not expressly require family law claimants to plead the material facts in support of conclusions of law.
[37] In other words, there is no express requirement in the Supreme Court Family Rules that Ms. Han plead the facts on which she relies for the allegation she and Mr. Dorje lived in a marriage-like relationship.
[38] Rule 4-6 authorizes a party to demand particulars, and then apply to the court for an order for further and better particulars, of a matter stated in a pleading. However, unless and until she is granted leave and files the proposed amended notice of family claim, Ms. Han’s allegation of a marriage-like relationship is not a matter stated in a pleading.
[39] Ms. Han filed an affidavit in support of her application to amend the notice of family claim. Normally, evidence would not be required or admissible on an application to amend a pleading. However, in the unusual circumstances of this case, the parties agreed I may look to Ms. Han’s affidavit and exhibits for the facts she pleads in support of the allegation of a marriage-like relationship.
[40] Because this is an application to amend - and Ms. Han’s allegations of fact are presumed to be true - I have not considered Mr. Dorje’s responding affidavit.
[41] Relying on affidavit evidence for an application to amend pleadings is less than ideal. It tends to merge and confuse the material facts with the evidence that would be relied on to prove those facts. In a number of places in her affidavit, for example, Ms. Han describes her feelings, impressions and understandings. A person’s hopes and intentions are not normally material facts unless they are mutual or reasonably held. The facts on which Ms. Han alleges she and Mr. Dorje formed a marriage-like relationship are more important for the present purposes than her belief they entered into a conjugal union.
[42] Somewhat unusually, in this case, almost all of the parties’ relevant communications were in writing. This makes it somewhat easier to separate the facts from the evidence; however, as stated above, it is difficult to understand the intentions and actions of a person from brief text messages.
[43] In my view, it would be a good practice for applicants who seek to amend their pleadings in family law cases to provide opposing counsel and the court with a schedule of the material facts on which they rely for the proposed amendment.
D. The Legal Concept of a Marriage-Like Relationship
[44] As Mr. Justice Myers observed in Mother 1 v. Solus Trust Company, 2019 BCSC 200, the concept of a marriage-like relationship is elastic and difficult to define. This elasticity is illustrated by the following passage from Yakiwchuk v. Oaks, 2003 SKQB 124, quoted by Myers J. at para. 133 of Mother 1:
[10] Spousal relationships are many and varied. Individuals in spousal relationships, whether they are married or not, structure their relationships differently. In some relationships there is a complete blending of finances and property - in others, spouses keep their property and finances totally separate and in still others one spouse may totally control those aspects of the relationship with the other spouse having little or no knowledge or input. For some couples, sexual relations are very important - for others, that aspect may take a back seat to companionship. Some spouses do not share the same bed. There may be a variety of reasons for this such as health or personal choice. Some people are affectionate and demonstrative. They show their feelings for their “spouse” by holding hands, touching and kissing in public. Other individuals are not demonstrative and do not engage in public displays of affection. Some “spouses” do everything together - others do nothing together. Some “spouses” vacation together and some spend their holidays apart. Some “spouses” have children - others do not. It is this variation in the way human beings structure their relationships that make the determination of when a “spousal relationship” exists difficult to determine. With married couples, the relationship is easy to establish. The marriage ceremony is a public declaration of their commitment and intent. Relationships outside marriage are much more difficult to ascertain. Rarely is there any type of “public” declaration of intent. Often people begin cohabiting with little forethought or planning. Their motivation is often nothing more than wanting to “be together”. Some individuals have chosen to enter relationships outside marriage because they did not want the legal obligations imposed by that status. Some individuals have simply given no thought as to how their relationship would operate. Often the date when the cohabitation actually began is blurred because people “ease into” situations, spending more and more time together. Agreements between people verifying when their relationship began and how it will operate often do not exist.
[45] In Mother 1, Mr. Justice Myers referred to a list of 22 factors grouped into seven categories, from Maldowich v. Penttinen, (1980), 17 R.F.L. (2d) 376 (Ont. Dist. Ct.), that have frequently been cited in this and other courts for the purpose of determining whether a relationship was marriage-like, at para. 134 of Mother 1:
1. Shelter:
(a) Did the parties live under the same roof?
(b) What were the sleeping arrangements?
(c) Did anyone else occupy or share the available accommodation?
2. Sexual and Personal Behaviour:
(a) Did the parties have sexual relations? If not, why not?
(b) Did they maintain an attitude of fidelity to each other?
(c) What were their feelings toward each other?
(d) Did they communicate on a personal level?
(e) Did they eat their meals together?
(f) What, if anything, did they do to assist each other with problems or during illness?
(g) Did they buy gifts for each other on special occasions?
3. Services:
What was the conduct and habit of the parties in relation to:
(a) preparation of meals;
(b) washing and mending clothes;
(c) shopping;
(d) household maintenance; and
(e) any other domestic services?
4. Social:
(a) Did they participate together or separately in neighbourhood and community activities?
(b) What was the relationship and conduct of each of them toward members of their respective families and how did such families behave towards the parties?
5. Societal:
What was the attitude and conduct of the community toward each of them and as a couple?
6. Support (economic):
(a) What were the financial arrangements between the parties regarding the provision of or contribution toward the necessaries of life (food, clothing, shelter, recreation, etc.)?
(b) What were the arrangements concerning the acquisition and ownership of property?
(c) Was there any special financial arrangement between them which both agreed would be determinant of their overall relationship?
7. Children:
What was the attitude and conduct of the parties concerning children?
[46] In Austin v. Goerz, 2007 BCCA 586, the Court of Appeal cautioned against a “checklist approach”; rather, a court should "holistically" examine all the relevant factors. Cases like Molodowich provide helpful indicators of the sorts of behaviour that society associates with a marital relationship, the Court of Appeal said; however, “the presence or absence of any particular factor cannot be determinative of whether a relationship is marriage-like” (para. 58).
[47] In Weber v. Leclerc, 2015 BCCA 492, the Court of Appeal again affirmed that there is no checklist of characteristics that will be found in all marriages and then concluded with respect to evidence of intentions:
[23] The parties’ intentions – particularly the expectation that the relationship will be of lengthy, indeterminate duration – may be of importance in determining whether a relationship is “marriage-like”. While the court will consider the evidence expressly describing the parties’ intentions during the relationship, it will also test that evidence by considering whether the objective evidence is consonant with those intentions.
[24] The question of whether a relationship is “marriage-like” will also typically depend on more than just their intentions. Objective evidence of the parties’ lifestyle and interactions will also provide direct guidance on the question of whether the relationship was “marriage-like”.
[48] Significantly for this case, the courts have looked to mutual intent in order to find a marriage-like relationship. See, for example, L.E. v. D.J., 2011 BCSC 671 and Buell v. Unger, 2011 BCSC 35; Davey Estate v. Gruyaert, 2005 CarswellBC 3456 at 13 and 35.
[49] In Mother 1, Myers J. concluded his analysis of the law with the following learned comment:
[143] Having canvassed the law relating to the nature of a marriage-like relationship, I will digress to point out the problematic nature of the concept. It may be apparent from the above that determining whether a marriage-like relationship exists sometimes seems like sand running through one's fingers. Simply put, a marriage-like relationship is akin to a marriage without the formality of a marriage. But as the cases mentioned above have noted, people treat their marriages differently and have different conceptions of what marriage entails.
[50] In short, the determination of whether the parties in this case lived in a marriage-like relationship is a fact-specific inquiry that a trial judge would need to make on a “holistic” basis, having regard to all of the evidence. While the trial judge may consider the various factors listed in the authorities, those factors would not be treated as a checklist and no single factor or category of factors would be treated as being decisive.
E. Is There a Reasonable Claim of a Marriage-Like Relationship?
[51] In this case, many of the Molodowich factors are missing:
a) The parties never lived under the same roof. They never slept together. They were never in the same place at the same time during the relationship. The last time they saw each other in person was in November 2017, before the relationship began.
b) The parties never had consensual sex. They did not hug, kiss or hold hands. With the exception of the alleged sexual assault, they never touched one another physically.
c) The parties expressed care and affection for one another, but they rarely shared personal information or interest in their lives outside of their direct topic of communication. They did not write about their families, their friends, their religious beliefs or their work.
d) They expressed concern and support for one another when the other felt unwell or experienced health issues, but they did not provide any care or assistance during illness or other problems.
e) They did not assist one another with domestic chores.
f) They did not share their relationship with their peers or their community. There is no allegation, for example, that Mr. Dorje told his fellow monks or any of his followers about the relationship. There is no allegation that Ms. Han told her friends or any co-workers. Indeed, there is no allegation that anyone, with the exception of Ms. Han’s mother, knew about the relationship. Although Mr. Dorje gave Ms. Han’s mother a gift, he never met the mother and he never spoke to her.
g) They did not intend to have a child together. The child was conceived as a result of a sexual assault. While Mr. Dorje expressed interest in “meeting” the child, he never followed up. He currently has no relationship with the child. There is no allegation he has sought access or parenting arrangements.
[52] The only Molodowich factor of any real relevance in this case is economic support. Mr. Dorje provided the funds with which Ms. Han purchased a condominium. Mr. Dorje initially wrote that he wanted to buy a property with the money, but, he wrote, “It’s the same thing if you buy [it]”.
[53] Mr. Dorje also provided a significant amount of money for Ms. Han’s postpartum care and the child’s first year of life.
[54] This financial support may have been primarily for the benefit of the child. Even the condominium, Ms. Han wrote, was primarily for the benefit of the child.
[55] However, in my view, a trial judge may attach a broader significance to the financial support from Mr. Dorje than child support alone. A trial judge may find that the money Mr. Dorje provided to Ms. Han at her request was an expression of his commitment to her in circumstances in which he could not commit physically. The money and the gifts may be seen by the trial judge to have been a form of down payment by Mr. Dorje on a promise of continued emotional and financial support for Ms. Han, or, in Mr. Dorje’s own words, “Taking care of her and you are my duty for life” (emphasis added).
[56] On the other hand, I find it difficult to attach any particular significance to the fact that Mr. Dorje agreed to provide funds for Ms. Han to purchase a wedding ring. It appears to me that Ms. Han demanded that Mr. Dorje buy her a wedding ring, not that the ring had any mutual meaning to the parties as a marriage symbol. But it is relevant, in my view, that Mr. Dorje provided $20,000 USD to Ms. Han for something she wanted that was of no benefit to the child.
[57] Further, Ms. Han alleges that the parties intended to live together. At a minimum, a trial judge may find that the discussions about where Ms. Han and the child would live reflected a mutual intention of the parties to see one another and spend time together when they could.
[58] Mr. Dorje argues that an intention to live together at some point in the future is not sufficient to show that an existing relationship was marriage-like. He argues that the question of whether the relationship was marriage-like requires more than just intentions, citing Weber, supra.
[59] In my view, the documentary evidence referred to above provides some objective evidence in this case that the parties progressed beyond mere intentions. As stated, the parties appear to have expressed genuine care and affection for one another. They appear to have discussed marriage, trust, honesty, finances, mutual obligations and acquiring family property. These are not matters one would expect Mr. Dorje to discuss with a friend or a follower, or even with the mother of his child, without a marriage-like element of the relationship.
[60] A trial judge may find on the facts alleged by Ms. Han that the parties loved one another and would have lived together, but were unable to do so because of Mr. Dorje’s religious duties and nomadic lifestyle.
[61] The question I raised in the introduction to these reasons is whether a relationship that began on-line and never moved into the physical world can be marriage-like.
[62] Notably, the definition of a spouse in the Family Law Act does not require that the parties live together, only that they live with another person in a marriage-like relationship.
[63] In Connor Estate, 2017 BCSC 978, Mr. Justice Kent found that a couple that maintained two entirely separate households and never lived under the same roof formed a marriage-like relationship. (Connor Estate was decided under the intestacy provisions of the Wills, Estates and Succession Act, S.B.C. 2009, c. 13 ("WESA"), but courts have relied on cases decided under WESA and the FLA interchangeably for their definitions of a spouse.) Mr. Justice Kent found:
[50] The evidence is overwhelming and I find as a fact that Mr. Chambers and Ms. Connor loved and cared deeply about each other, and that they had a loving and intimate relationship for over 20 years that was far more than mere friendship or even so-called "friendship with benefits". I accept Mr. Chambers' evidence that he would have liked to share a home with Ms. Connor after the separation from his wife, but was unable to do so because of Ms. Connor's hoarding illness. The evidence amply supports, and I find as a fact, that Mr. Chambers and Ms. Connor loved each other, were faithful to each other, communicated with each other almost every day when they were not together, considered themselves to be (and presented themselves to be) "husband and wife" and were accepted by all who knew them as a couple.
[64] Connor Estate may be distinguishable from this case because Mr. Chambers and Ms. Connor were physically intimate for over 20 years, and presented themselves to the world as a married couple.
[65] Other decisions in which a marriage-like relationship has been found to exist despite the parties not living together have involved circumstances in which the couple lived under the same roof at previous points in the relationship, and the issue was whether they continued to be spouses after they took up separate residences: in Thompson v. Floyd, 2001 BCCA 78, the parties had lived together for a period of at least 11 years; in Roach v. Dutra, 2010 BCCA 264, the parties had lived together for approximately three years.
[66] However, as Mr. Justice Kent noted in Connor Estate:
[48] … [W]hile much guidance might be found in this case law, the simple fact is that no two cases are identical (and indeed they usually vary widely) and it is the assessment of evidence as a whole in this particular case which matters.
[67] Mr. Justice Kent concluded:
[53] Like human beings themselves, marriage-like relationships can come in many and various shapes. In this particular case, I have no doubt that such a relationship existed …
[68] As stated, Ms. Han’s claim is novel. It may even be weak. Almost all of the traditional factors are missing. The fact that Ms. Han and Mr. Dorje never lived under the same roof, never shared a bed and never even spent time together in person will militate against a finding they lived with one another in a marriage-like relationship. However, the traditional factors are not a mandatory check-list that confines the “elastic” concept of a marriage-like relationship. And if the COVID pandemic has taught us nothing else, it is that real relationships can form, blossom and end in virtual worlds.
[69] In my view, the merits of Ms. Han’s claim should be decided on the evidence. Subject to an overriding prejudice to Mr. Dorje, she should have leave to amend the notice of family claim. However, she should also provide meaningful particulars of the alleged marriage-like relationship.
F. Delay / Prejudice
[70] Ms. Han filed her notice of family claim on July 17, 2019. She brought this application to amend approximately one year and nine months after she filed the pleading, just over two months before the original trial date.
[71] Ms. Han’s delay was made all that more remarkable by her change in position from January 19, 2021, when she confirmed, through counsel, that she was not seeking spousal support in this case.
[72] Ms. Han gave notice of her intention to proceed with this application to Mr. Dorje on March 16, 2021. By the time the application was heard, the parties had conducted examinations for discovery without covering the issues that would arise from a claim of spousal support.
[73] Also, in April, Ms. Han produced additional documents, primarily text messages, that may be relevant to her claim of spousal support, but were undecipherable to counsel for Mr. Dorje, who does not read Mandarin.
[74] This application proceeded largely on documents selected and translated by counsel for Ms. Han. I was informed that Mandarin translations of the full materials would take 150 days.
[75] Understandably in the circumstances, Mr. Dorje argued that an amendment two months before trial would be neither just nor convenient. He argued that he would be prejudiced by an adjournment so as to allow Ms. Han to advance a late claim of spousal support.
[76] The circumstances changed on May 6, 2021, when Madam Justice Walkem adjourned the trial to July 2022 and reset it for 25 days. Madam Justice Walkem noted that most of the witnesses live internationally and require translators. She also noted that paternity may be in issue, and Mr. Dorje may amend his pleadings to raise that issue. It seems clear that, altogether apart from the potential spousal support claim, the parties were not ready to proceed to trial on June 7, 2021.
[77] In my view, any remaining prejudice to Mr. Dorje is outweighed by the importance of having all of the issues between the parties decided on their merits.
[78] Ms. Han’s delay and changes of position on spousal support may be a matter to de addressed in a future order of costs; but they are not grounds on which to deny her leave to amend the notice of family claim.
CONCLUSION
[79] Ms. Han is granted leave to amend her notice of family claim in the form attached as Appendix A to the notice of application to include a claim for spousal support.
[80] Within 21 days, or such other deadline as the parties may agree, Ms. Han must provide particulars of the marriage-like relationship alleged in the amended notice of family claim.
[81] Ms. Han is entitled to costs of this application in the cause of the spousal support claim.
“Master Elwood”
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ที่นี่บลาซิล5555555555 ใส่แม็กเทพด้วย โคตรเอาแหละ
NEWS: ที่นี่บราซิล! รัฐไม่ทำ ข้าทำเอง
แก๊งค์อาชญากรบราซิลสั่งเคอร์ฟิวแทนรัฐ
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“ถ้ารัฐบาลไม่ทำสิ่งที่ควรทำ อาชญากรจะทำเอง!”
คำว่า “ที่นี่บราซิล” คงจะไม่ได้เกินจริงเท่าไรและเหมือนอะไรก็เกิดขึ้นได้จริง ๆ ล่าสุดแก๊งค์อาชญากรตัดสินในประกาศปิดเมืองและเคอร์ฟิวให้ประชาชนอยู่แต่ในบ้านแบบไม่รอรัฐบาลเพื่อป้องกันเชื้อไวรัส COVID-19
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สถานการณ์เชื้อไวรัส COVID-19 ที่แพร่ระบาดไปทั่วโลก ประชาชนส่วนใหญ่ก็อยู่กันอย่างระวังตัวและรอท่าทีของรัฐบาลตัวเองว่าจะจัดการกับปัญหาระดับมวลรวมนี้อย่างไร เด็ดขาดแค่ไหน แต่หลังจากพบผู้ป่วยรายแรกใน “City of god” หรือชุมชนหนึ่งในเมืองหลวง กลายเป็นว่าแก๊งค์อาชญากรจะเคลื่อนไหวเร็วกว่าภาครัฐ
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พวกเค้าส่งข้อความลงในพื้นที่สลัมของเมืองริโอ เดอ จาเนโร ว่า ชาวแก๊งค์จะสอนให้คน “เคารพ” การกักกันหลัง 2 ทุ่มเอง และบอกด้วยว่าถ้ารัฐบาลไม่ยอมทำสิ่งที่ควรทำ พวกเราจะจัดการเอง
“โปรดทราบทุกคนในเมือง Rio das Pedras, Muzema และ Tijuquinha ประกาศเคอร์ฟิวตั้งแต่ 2 ทุ่มวันนี้ ใครก็ตามที่เราเห็นอยู่บนท้องถนนหลังเวลานั้น จะได้เรียนรู้ว่าต้องเคารพกฎ” หนึ่งในข้อความที่เหล่าอาชญากรได้ประกาศ
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แม้ว่าโรงเรียน ร้านค้า และสถานที่ท่องเที่ยวเช่นชายหาดได้ปิดและหยุดทำการไปแล้ว แต่ประชาชนทั่วไปก็ยังสามารถเดินทางและเคลื่อนย้ายได้ พื้นที่สลัมในเมือง ริโอ มีคนอาศัยอยู่ราว 1.5 ล้านคน ในพ้นที่มีทั้งห้องขนาดเล็กจนถึงกระท่อมที่เบียดเสียดกันอยู่ตามถนนแคบคดเคี้ยว แน่นอนว่าเป็นพื้นที่ขาดความพร้อมทางสุขอนามัยถ้าหากเกิดการแพร่ระบาดของโรคในสลัมไวรัสจะสามารถแพร่ไปได้อย่างรวดเร็วเหมือนไฟลามทุ่ง
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จากคำแนะนำของผู้เชี่ยวชาญสุขอนามัยทั่วโลกคือให้ล้างมือเป็นประจำและดูแลตัวเองนั้นอาจทำได้ยากสำหรับชุมชนแออัดที่บางครั้งอาจไม่มีแม้แต่น้ำประปาเพียงพอด้วยซ้ำ พื้นที่อยู่อาศัยที่คับแคบทำให้อากาศถ่ายเทไม่ดีและได้รับแสงแดดน้อย ซึ่งเป็นผลเสียต่อโรคที่เกี่ยวกับระบบทางเดินหายใจ รวมถึง COVID-19 ด้วยเช่นกัน
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สถานการณ์ของประเทศบราซิลมีผู้ป่วย COVID-19 แล้ว 1,960 ราย เสียชีวิต 34 ราย เฉพาะในเมืองริโอ เดอ จาเนโร ก็มีผู้ป่วยสูงถึง 191 รายแล้ว
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แม้ว่ารัฐบาลกลางบราซิลยังไม่ได้กำหนดให้มีการปิดเมือง แต่ในบางรัฐเช่น Santa Catarina และ Florianopolis มีการประกาศห้ามประชาชนออกมาเดินที่ชายหาด และตำรวจใช้วิธีขับเฮลิคอปเตอร์ไปใกล้ ๆ ให้เกิดพายุทรายไล่ประชาชนออกจากพื้นที่
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นอกจากการระบาดของเชื้อไวรัส COVID-19 จะทำให้เราเห็นค่าสุขภาพมากขึ้น ยังให้เราได้เห็นปรากฏการณ์ที่ไม่คาดคิดอย่างการประกาศเคอร์ฟิวป้องกันไวรัสโดยอาชญากรในบราซิล แล้วคุณคิดเห็นอย่างไรกับเรื่องนี้?
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อ้างอิง: http://dailym.ai/2JcWoHV
https://bit.ly/3bv3dkt
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#Brasil #Curfew #BrandThink
#ส่งต่อความคิดสู้COVID19
#แชร์สิ่งเล็กๆให้ยิ่งใหญ่
#sharingIsEmpowering
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NEWS: Here is Brazil! State doesn't. I do it myself.
Brazilian criminal gang ordered curfew instead of state.
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′′ If the government doesn't do what they should, the criminals will do it themselves!"
The word ′′ here Brazil ′′ isn't overrated and like anything really happens. The latest, criminal gang decides on city closures and curfews for citizens to stay in homes without waiting for government to prevent the COVID-19 virus.
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The COVID-19 virus situation that spreads around the world. Most people are careful and waiting for their own government's position to deal with this total mass problem, but after meeting first patient in ′′ City of God ′′ or community. One of the capital turns out that criminal gangs are moving faster than the public sector.
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They messaged into the ghetto area of Rio de Janeiro that gangsters would teach people to ′′ respect ′′ after 2 pm and also tell that if the government doesn't do what they should do, we would. I'll do it myself.
′′ Attention everyone in Rio das Pedras, Muzema and Tijuquinha announced curfew from 2 pm today. Whoever we see on the road after that time will learn to respect the rules one of the messages that the criminals announced.
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Even though schools, shops and attractions like beaches are closed and stopped, the general public can still travel and move. The slum area in Rio City lives around 1.5 million people in the absence of small rooms to the hut-hound. On a narrow road, definitely a lack of hygiene readiness. If the epidemic of ghetto, the virus can spread as quickly as a fire of the field.
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From the advice of global hygiene experts, wash your hands regularly and take care of yourself. It's difficult to do for crowded communities. Sometimes there isn't even enough water. Cramped residential areas make compromised weather conditions and less sunlight affects respiratory diseases, including COVID. - 19 as well
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Brazilian country situation has 1,960 COVID-19 patients. 34 deaths. Only in Rio de Janeiro. Up to 191 patients.
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Although the Brazilian federal government doesn't define city shutdown, but in some states such as Santa Catarina and Florianopolis, people prohibit beach walking and police use helicopters to near by. There is a sandstorm expiring people from the area.
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In addition to the COVID-19 virus outbreak, we also give us more health benefits, unexpected phenomenon, anti-virus curfew announced by Brazilian criminals. What do you think about this?
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Reference: http://dailym.ai/2JcWoHV
https://bit.ly/3bv3dkt
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#Brasil #Curfew #BrandThink
#ส่งต่อความคิดสู้COVID19
#แชร์สิ่งเล็กๆให้ยิ่งใหญ่
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17 วิธีคิดของเหล่าเศรษฐีที่ประสบความสำเร็จในชีวิต
ได้ยินคำว่า “เศรษฐี” เชื่อได้เลยว่าใครๆก็อยากเป็นเศรษฐีกันทั้งนั้น แต่ว่าจะทำอย่างไรล่ะ ถึงจะได้เป็นเศรษฐีกับเขาบ้าง เป็นคนที่ประสบความสำเร็จในชีวิตบ้าง วันนี้เรานำเอาวิธีคิดของเหล่าเศรษฐีที่ประสบความสำเร็จในชีวิต มากฝากครับ มีอะไรบ้างไปดูกันเลย
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1. คนเราสามารถกำหนดชะตาชีวิตของตัวเองได้
คนรวยหรือคนที่ประสบความสำเร็จมักคิดว่า เราสามารถกำหนดชะตาชีวิตของตัวเองได้ โดยไม่ต้องรอให้โชคชะตา ดวง เทวดา สรวงสวรรค์ หรือสิ่งที่เรามองไม่เห็นมาเป็นผู้กำหนดตัวเอง เช่น การซื้อล็อตเตอรี่เพื่อหวังรวยทางลัด หรือการพึ่งหมอดูเพื่อทำนายโชคชะตา เป็นต้น แต่ในทางกลับกัน คนที่ยากจนมักจะโทษโชคชะตา สิ่งแวดล้อม หรือบุคคลรอบๆข้างว่า เป็นต้นเหตุแห่งความยากจนหรือความล้มเหลวของตน หรือมักคิดว่าทรัพย์สินเงินทองไม่ใช่เรื่องสำคัญเป็นเพียงของนอกกาย ตายไปก็เอาไปไม่ได้ เมื่อใดที่คิดเช่นนี้สติปัญญาที่จะใช้ขวนขวายหาเงินหาทองก็ย่อมหมดไปเป็นธรรมดา ในขณะที่คนรวยกลับคิดเสมอว่า เมื่อปรารถนาสิ่งใดก็ต้องสร้างเหตุและปัจจัยมาด้วยน้ำพักน้ำแรงของตนเอง ถ้ามัวแต่รอปัจจัยภายนอกแล้ว เมื่อไรสิ่งเหล่านั้นจะเกิดดอกและออกผล
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2. มีการกำหนดเป้าหมายที่ชัดเจน
คนรวยคนประสบความสำเร็จจะกำหนดเป้าหมายอย่างชัดเจนว่า ตนเองจะมีเงินเท่าไร ในอีกกี่ปีข้างหน้า แต่คนทั่วไปมักจะคิดว่า ขอแค่มีเงินเดือนไว้แค่พอใช้ในแต่เดือนก็เพียงพอแล้ว คนที่ประสบความสำเร็จมักมองการณ์ไกล มีความฝัน มีจินตนาการ และกล้าที่จะลงมือกระทำเพราะเชื่อมั่นในศักยภาพของตน
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3. เกิดมาแล้วต้องรวยและประสบความสำเร็จ
คนรวยจะคิดอยู่เสมอว่า เกิดมาแล้วต้องรวย ไม่ว่าจะต้องลงทุนลงแรงขนาดไหนก็ตาม ถึงแม้ตอนเกิดเราจะไม่สามารถเลือกได้ว่าเกิดมาแล้วจะรวยเลย แต่เราสามารถกำหนดชีวิตของเราเองได้ว่าต้องการรวย ต้องการประสบความสำเร็จมากขนาดไหน แต่คนทั่วไปจะคิดเพียงแค่ว่า อยากจะร่ำรวยแต่กลับไม่ขยันทำงาน เมื่อเจอปัญหาอุปสรรคก็มักจะบ่นและท้อถอยเพราะไม่ชอบทำงานหนัก
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4. คิดใหญ่ ไม่คิดเล็ก
คนรวยจะคิดเสมอว่า ทุกอย่างสามารถเป็นไปได้ทั้งนั้นขอแค่เราเห็นโอกาสแล้ว ลองลงมือทำดูเท่านั้น ไม่ว่าสิ่งนั้นยากเพียงใดก็ตามแต่ และจะคิดหาหนทางในการพัฒนาสินค้าและบริการของตน เพื่อช่วยสร้างประโยชน์ให้แก่คนหมู่มาก
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5. มองหาโอกาสต่างๆ และไม่เสียเวลาไปกับปัญหาที่เกิดขึ้น
เมื่อเกิดปัญหา คนรวยจะพยายามหาโอกาส หรือช่องทางที่จะพลิกวิกฤตให้เป็นโอกาส ไม่ตีโพยตีพายหรือหมดหวังไปกับปัญหาต่างๆ ที่เกิดขึ้น คนที่ประสบความสำเร็จจะนิ่งสงบ เผชิญหน้ากับปัญหาอย่างมีสติ คิดพิจารณาอย่างรอบคอบแล้วลงมือกระทำ และไม่ปล่อยเวลาให้ผ่านไปโดยเปล่าประโยชน์ เพราะว่าคนที่ประสบความสำเร็จรู้ว่าเวลามีความหมายต่อให้รวยแค่ไหนก็ไม่สามารถซื้อเวลาได้
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6. ชื่นชมคนที่ประสบความสำเร็จเพื่อนำแนวความคิดมาปรับใช้ในชีวิตของตนเอง
คนรวยและคนที่ประสบความสำเร็จ สนใจและชอบที่จะศึกษาว่า คนที่เขาประสบความสำเร็จนั้นมีแนวคิดอย่างไรและทำอย่างไรถึงได้ร่ำรวยขนาดนั้นและนำมาเป็นไอดอลหรือเป็นแนวคิดในแก่ตัวเอง มากกว่าการรู้สึกคิดอิจฉาริษยาในความสำเร็จของผู้อื่น
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7. ชอบคบหาสมาคมกับคนที่มองโลกในแง่ดี
คนรวยจะชอบคบหาสมาคมกับคนที่มองโลกในแง่ดี เพราะเขาเหล่านั้นจะมีแนวความคิด คำพูด และการกระทำที่เต็มไปด้วยความหวัง คนที่มองโลกในแง่ดีจะมองสามารถเห็นโอกาสในวิกฤตเสมอ และมักจะมองปัญหาที่เกิดขึ้นเป็นเรื่องธรรมดา ส่วนคนที่มองโลกในแง่ร้ายจะชอบทำเรื่องเล็กให้เป็นเรื่องใหญ่และมองปัญหาว่า เป็นสิ่งที่จะนำมาซึ่งความหายนะ ยิ่งคิดก็ยิ่งเครียด เกิดเป็นความท้อถอย ความอึดอัด จนต้องระบายความรู้สึกดังกล่าวออกมาในรูปของการกระทำต่างๆ เช่น การก้าวร้าว ด่าทอ ติฉินนินทา อิจฉาริษยา หรือคอยจับผิดผู้อื่น เป็นต้น การมองโลกในแง่ร้ายมากเท่าไร ยิ่งทำให้คิดอะไรไม่ออก ชีวิตก็ย่อมจะตกอยู่ในวังวนของความยากจนข้นแค้นมากขึ้นเรื่อย ๆ ฉะนั้น คนที่ร่ำรวยจึงเลือกที่จะไม่สุงสิงกับคนที่มองโลกในแง่ร้าย เพราะจะเป็นการเพาะเชื้อแห่งการมองโลกในแง่ร้ายเข้าไปในจิตใจโดยไม่รู้ตัว
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8. พร้อมที่จะนำเสนอสินค้าและบริการของตัวเอง
คนรวยพร้อมที่จะนำเสนอสินค้าของตนเองให้ผู้อื่นได้รับรู้อยู่เสมอ เพราะพวกเขาเชื่อว่า การรอคอยให้ผู้อื่นเข้ามาสอบถามถึงสินค้าของเรานั้นเป็นการเสียเวลา คนรวยและประสบความสำเร็จมักอยู่กับปัจจุบัน พวกเขาจะไม่จมปลักอยู่กับเรื่องในอดีต เพราะเขาตระหนักดีว่า ทุกอย่างในโลกล้วนเปลี่ยนแปลงอยู่เสมอ และหากเขาหลงชื่นชมอยู่กับความสำเร็จในอดีต เขาก็จะประมาท หรือถ้าเขาหวาดกลัวหรือผิดหวังไปกับความล้มเหลวในอดีต เขาก็จะไม่กล้าที่จะทำสิ่งใดอีกต่อไป ฉะนั้น พวกเขาจึงไม่สนใจกับเรื่องในอดีตมากนัก แต่จะสนใจว่า ตอนนี้ควรจะทำอย่างไรต่อไปเพื่อพัฒนาสินค้าและบริการให้ดียิ่งขึ้นมากกว่า
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9. มองปัญหาเป็นเรื่องธรรมดา
คนรวยและประสบความสำเร็จจะมองปัญหาที่เกิดขึ้น เสมือนเครื่องมือที่ช่วยเสริมสร้างสติปัญญาให้เฉียบคมมากขึ้น และเป็นสิ่งที่ช่วยเพิ่มความรู้ เพิ่มความสามารถให้แก่ตนเองอีกต่างหาก ประสบการณ์ในการแก้ปัญหาที่ผ่านมานั้นเอง จะเป็นกำลังใจให้พวกเขากล้าที่จะทำในสิ่งใหม่และท้าทายมากยิ่งขึ้นไปอีก อย่างไรก็ตามทุกๆ ปัญหาที่เขาต้องเผชิญนั้น พวกเขาจะคิดมาตรการเพื่อการป้องกันมิให้ปัญหานั้นเกิดซ้ำอีก
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10. มีความเชื่อมั่นในตัวเอง
คนที่ร่ำรวยจะรู้สึกเชื่อมั่นในศักยภาพของตนเอง พวกเขาจะรู้ว่าตัวเองสามารถทำอะไรบ้าง มีความสามารถทำได้แต่ไหน และจะลงมือทำอย่างสุดความารถของพวกเขาเองด้วยความเชื่อมั่น
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11. ประเมินผลสำเร็จจากผลงานเป็นหลัก
คนรวยจะประเมินผลงานจากสินค้าที่ขายได้หรือผลกำไรของบริษัท แต่คนทั่วไปมักจะประเมินผลงานจากแรงงานที่ตัวเองเสียไป นอกจากนั้น คนทั่วไปมักเลือกที่จะเป็นลูกน้องในองค์กรที่มีความมั่นคง เพื่อที่ว่าตนเองจะได้ไม่ต้องลงทุนหรือมีความเสี่ยงในการทำธุรกิจมากนัก ในทางกลับกัน คนรวยจะทำงานในองค์กรสักระยะหนึ่งเพื่อเก็บเกี่ยวประสบการณ์ และหาโอกาสเปิดกิจการหรือมีธุรกิจเป็นของตนเองต่อไป
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12. คิดหวังผลสองด้าน
คนรวยคิดว่า คนเราสามารถประสบความสำเร็จ มีความสุข และมีเวลาให้กับครอบครัวได้พร้อมๆกัน แต่คนทั่วไปกลับคิดว่า การที่จะประสบความสำเร็จได้จะต้องทุ่มเททุกสิ่งทุกอย่าง เรื่องส่วนตัวเก็บไว้ทีหลัง การทำงานต้องเคร่งเครียด เอาจริงเอาจัง จนทำให้ละเลยคนที่รอบข้างไปหมด ละเลยสุขภาพของตัวเอง นอกจากนั้น คนรวยคิดว่า ยิ่งมีเงินทองมากขึ้น ยิ่งช่วยเปิดโอกาสให้ได้ทำประโยชน์ให้กับสังคมได้มากยิ่งขึ้น แต่คนทั่วไปกลับคิดว่า การจะร่ำรวยได้จะต้องเกิดจากการเอารัดเอาเปรียบผู้อื่นเสียเป็นส่วนใหญ่ พวกเขาจึงมองว่าคนรวยคือคนที่ไม่ดี
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13. คิดว่าตนเองมีราคาเท่าไร
คนรวยจะประเมินมูลค่าของตนเองจากสินทรัพย์ที่มีอยู่ทั้งหมด หักลบกับหนี้สินทั้งหลาย ฉะนั้น คนรวยจึงคิดที่จะนำเงินไปลงทุนมากกว่านำไปใช้จ่ายจนหมด เพราะการลงทุนถือว่าเป็นการเพิ่มพูนรายได้โดยที่มูลค่าเดิมก็ยังคงอยู่ ในทางกลับกัน เมื่อมีเงินทองคนทั่วไปมักคิดที่จะจับจ่ายใช้สอยหรือไปท่องเที่ยวมากกกว่าการเก็บออมหรือนำไปลงทุน
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14. รู้จักวางแผนในการจับจ่ายใช้สอย
คนรวยจะวางแผนเก็บออมเงินในระยะยาวมากกว่าการนำเงินไปใช้ มีการคิดตลอดเวลาก่อนที่จะตัดสินใจซื้อหรือเปลี่ยนสิ่งใดสิ่งหนึ่ง และในแต่ละวันแต่ละเดือน จะมีการจดบันทึกค่าใช้จ่ายไว้อย่างสม่ำเสมอ เพราะจะทำให้เรารู้ว่า เราใช้จ่ายไปกับอะไรบ้าง แล้วสิ่งนั้นจำเป็นมากน้อยแค่ไหน ซึ่งจะช่วยให้อนาคตเราจะไม่ขัดสนและลำบาก
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15. รู้จักใช้เงินอย่างฉลาด
คนรวยจะรู้จักบริหารเงินให้เกิดประโยชน์อย่างสูงสุด ไม่ใช่ว่าหาเงินมาได้มากเท่าไหร่ ก็ใช้ไปเท่านั้น หรือมี 100 บาทแต่ใช้ 500 บาทแบบนี้เป็นต้น พวกเขาจะรู้จักหาวิธีที่สามารถช่วยทำให้เงินงอกเงย และช่วยเพิ่มพูนทรัพย์ให้พวกอย่างต่อเนื่อง รู้จักลงทุนโดยใช้ความคิดมากกว่าการใช้แรง
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16. ไม่กลัวความล้มเหลว
คนรวยเมื่อเจอกับความล้มเหลวจะไม่ย่อท้อหรือหมดหวัง แต่จะตั้งสติ อดทน และพยายามหาหนทางแก้ไขและมองความล้มเหลวที่เกิดขึ้นเหล่านี้นี่แหละ เป็นสิ่งที่จะช่วยให้เกิดแรงกระตุ้น หรือเป็นตัวพัฒนาความรู้ ความสามารถของตัวเองมากกว่า แต่คนทั่วไปเมื่อเจอความผิดพลาด อุปสรรค ปัญหา หรือความล้มเหลวจะยอมแพ้ รู้สึกท้อ ผิดหวังกับสิ่งที่เกิดขึ้น และคิดว่าตนเองหมดสิ้นทุกสิ่งทุกอย่างแล้วในชีวิต และจะหยุดการพัฒนาตัวเองโดยจมอยู่แต่กับความล้มเหลว
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17. เรียนรู้ตลอดเวลา
คนรวยจะเรียนรู้สิ่งใหม่ๆ อยู่ตลอดเวลาและไม่เคยคิดว่าตนเองเก่งแล้ว แต่คนทั่วไปจะคิดว่า ประสบการณ์จะเป็นสิ่งที่บ่งบอกถึงความสามารถจึงทำให้หลงคิดว่าตนเองเก่งแล้ว เพราะผ่านประสบการณ์การทำงานมาหลายปี ฉะนั้น จึงมักไม่ยอมรับการสั่งสอนหรือคำแนะนำจากคนอื่นโดยเฉพาะอย่างยิ่งจากคนที่มีประสบการณ์น้อยกว่า เพราะถือว่าเป็นการเสียหน้าเป็นอย่างมาก ฉะนั้นอย่าลืมการเรียนรู้ตลอดเวลา ทำตัวเป็นน้ำครึ่งแก้วเข้าไว้ เพื่อจะได้เรียนรู้ พัฒนาตัวเองอยู่ตลอดเวลา
เหล่านี้คือวิธีคิดของเหล่าเศรษฐีที่ประสบความสำเร็จ หากคุณอยากเป็นเศรษฐีบ้าง ก็เพียงเริ่มนำทั้ง 17 ข้อนี้เป็นหลักในการดำเนินชีวิต และใช้มันอย่างต่อเนื่องจนถึงจุดที่คุณพร้อมรับการเป็นเศรษฐี ความมั่งคั่งร่ำรวยจะเข้ามาเยือนคุณอย่างแน่นอน
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17 ways of thinking of successful millionaires in life
I hear the word "Millionaire" I can believe that everyone wants to be a millionaire. But how to be a millionaire with him? I am a successful person in life. Today we bring the way of thinking of successful millionaires in life. What? Let's go check it out.
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1. People can determine their own destiny.
Rich people or successful people often think that we can determine their own destiny without waiting for destiny, angels, heaven or what we can't see to define ourselves, such as buying lottery to hope to be rich, shortcuts or relying on fortune tellers for Predict Fate etc. But on the other hand, poor people often blame fate, environment or people around the cause of poverty or failure. or they often think that wealth, money is not important. It's just outside the outside the body. When you can't take it. When you think like this, the wisdom to use. Earn money to find gold, it will be gone. While Rich people always think that when they wish for anything, they have to create cause and sustenance with water. Rest their own energy. If you keep waiting for external factors, when will those things be bloomed and bloomed.
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2. Clear targeting
Rich people, successful people will clearly target how much money they will have in the next year. But people often think that they just have enough for a month. But the month is enough. Successful people always look far away, have dreams, imagination and dare to Do it because you believe in your potential.
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3. Born, must be rich and successful.
Rich people will always think that they have to be rich. No matter how hard we have to invest. Even at birth, we can't choose whether we are born to be rich. But we can determine our own lives how much we want to be rich, want to succeed, but normal people will. I only think that I want to be rich, but I don't work hard. When I have problems, obstacles often complain and give up because I don't
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4. Think Big, don't think small.
Rich people will always think that everything can be possible. Only we see the opportunity and try to do it. No matter how hard it is and figure out how to develop their products and services to help benefit many people.
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5. Look for opportunities and not waste time on problems
When there is a problem, rich people will try to find opportunities or ways to turn crisis into opportunities, not be hysterical or lose hope for problems. Successful people will remain calm, face problems consciously. Think carefully and do it and don't let go of time. Pass in vain because successful people know how much time means, no matter how rich they are, they can't buy time.
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6. Admire successful people to bring ideas in their own life.
Rich people and successful people care and like to study how successful people are and how to become that rich and bring idols or as an idea of themselves rather than feeling jealous of other people's success.
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Haha. I like to be in relationship with optimistic people.
Rich people will like to fellowship with optimistic people because they will have thoughts, words and actions. Optimistic people will always see opportunities in crisis and often see problems that happen as common. Pessimistic people. I will like to make small things big things and see that it is something that will bring disaster. The more you think, the more stressed it is discouraged. Uncomfortable that you have to vent such feelings in the photos of actions such as stepping up. Inna, jealousy or catch others, etc. The more pessimism makes you can't think of anything, life will fall in the loop of poverty. Therefore, rich people choose not to be possessed. With pessimistic people because it will grow pessimism into the mind without knowing.
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8. Ready to present their own products and services.
Rich people are always ready to present their products to others because they believe that waiting for others to inquire about our products is a waste of time. Rich and successful people are often live in the present. They will not be stuck in the past because they realize everything in the world. It's always changing. and if he is in his past successes, he will be careless. or if he is afraid or disappointed with past failures, he won't dare to do anything anymore. So they don't care much about the past, but care that they should be now. How to improve products and services better
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Haha. Looking at problems as normal.
Rich and successful people will look at problems like tools that strengthen wisdom, sharper and increase knowledge, increase their ability. Experience of solving past problems will encourage them to do new and challenging things. Even more, every problem he has to face, they will think measures to prevent the problem from repeated.
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10. Have faith in myself
Rich people will feel trust in their potential. They will know what they can do. They can do, and will do their best with confidence.
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11. Evaluation from the work primarily
Rich people will assess the products that are sold or profit of companies. But people often assess their lost workforce. Besides, people choose to be subordinate in stable organizations so that they don't have to invest or risk. Doing much business. On the other hand, rich people will work in corporations for a while to reap experience and find opportunities to open business or have their own business.
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12. Thinking about two sides.
Rich people think that people can be successful, happy and have time for family at the same time. But people think that being successful must be dedicated to everything personal things. Keep it later. Work must be serious. Seriously that it makes you neglect those around you. Neglect their health. Besides, rich people think that the more More money, the more money helps to make more benefits for society. But people think that being rich must be caused by taking advantage of others. Most of them think that rich people are bad people.
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Haha. How much do you think it cost?
Rich people will evaluate their value from all existing assets. Cuddle remove debts. Therefore, rich people think to invest more than spend it because investment is considered increasing income. The same value is still on the other hand when there is money. In General, I often think of paying, living or traveling more than saving or investing.
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14. Know how to plan to pay for living.
Rich people plan to save long-term savings rather than spending money. Always think before making a decision to buy or change one thing. Each month, each month will be regularly taking note of expenses because it will make us know what we spend on. How necessary is it to help our future not be needy and difficult?
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15. Know how to spend money wisely
Rich people will know how to manage the most benefits. It's not how much they earn, they spend only or have 100 baht. But spend 500 baht like this, etc. They will know how to find ways that can help make money grow and help increase the money. People constantly know how to invest in mind rather than using energy.
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16. Not afraid of failure
Rich people, when they encounter failure, they will not give up or lose hope. But focus on being patient and try to find a solution and look at these failures. These are the things that will help motivate or develop their knowledge, ability, but normal people when they meet. Mistakes, obstacles, problems or failures will give up. Feel discouraged, disappointed by what happened and think that you are gone. Everything is gone in life and will stop developing yourself by being stuck in failure.
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17. Learn all the time
Rich people will learn new things all the time and never think they are good. But people think that experience will indicates their ability, so they are good because they have been through many years of work experience. Therefore, they do not accept teaching or advice from others. People who have less experience because it is considered a lot of loss. So don't forget to learn all the time. Be half a glass of water to learn how to develop yourself all
These are the ways of thinking of successful millionaires. If you want to become millionaires, just start leading these 17 things to live and use them continuously to the point where you are ready to receive a millionaire, wealth will definitely visit you.
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This Mind Movie is focused on “Believing in Yourself”. Mind Movies are short videos filled with positive affirmations, inspiring visual images and motivating music. By watching this mind movie, it will assist in a reprograming our subconscious mind (just like updating the OS system in our brain). The process is called “visualization” and is applied by many of the world's most successful people - from CEOs and billionaires to athletes and musicians – to fuel their life with power and get their mind to perform at their peak each day.
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Positive Quotes From Celebrities Used in this video:
It doesn’t matter what you do. It matters who you are.
You’re perfect when you’re comfortable being yourself.
Pleasure is always derived from something outside you, whereas you arises from within.
It’s never too late to take a leap of faith and see what will happen – and to brave in life.
What makes you different is what makes you beautiful.
Life is too short to worry what others say about you.
Listen. Pay attention. Treasure every moment.
Nothing is impossible; the word itself says I’m possible!
You can’t let your failures define you. You have to let your failures teach you.
Never give up on something you love.
Never listen to anybody that tries to discourage you.
When something is important enough, you do it even if the odds are not in your favour.
Have the courage to follow your heart and intuition.
Smile and let everyone know that today you’re a lot stronger than you were yesterday.
A lot of people are afraid to say what they want. That’s why they don’t get what they want.
Live as if you were to die tomorrow…Learn as if you were to live forever.
Knowing is not enough; We must apply…Willing is not enough; We must do.
Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.
You are ready and able to do beautiful things in this world.
You don’t learn to walk by following the rules, you learn by doing and by falling over.
If you are not happy, you can become happy. Happiness is a choice.
They are so many great things in life; why dwell on negativity?
One day, the people that didn’t believe in you will tell everyone how they met you.
#GoodVibesOnly #BelieveAndAchieve #StayPositive
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